Psychologically our Attachment Styles of Childhood form an important role in how we share our existing relationship with ourselves and others.
It is a style that stays with you and plays out today in how you relate in intimate relationships and in how you parent your children in future.
Attachment is a special emotional relationship that involves an exchange of comfort, care, and pleasure. The roots of research on attachment began with Freud's theories about love, but another researcher is usually credited as the father of attachment theory.
Every Human is a totally different WORLD all together. Judging others is likes judging the CREATOR who created that being and me...
SELF LOVE forms the basis of true unconditional LOVE, what we give to others and receive from others, IF OUR OWN LOVE CUP IS EMPTY What will we give to others ?
Resulting in Loneliness with your partner,
Self-sabotaging addictions like Heavy Alcohol consumption ,
wherein the person piles in all unexpressed /unresolved emotions and feelings inside the body in an unhealthy manner(please share and express)
OverEating again piles in all unexpressed emotions...(please learn to transmute your emotions)
UNDERSTANDING 4 TYPES OF ATTACHMENT STYLES,WHICH ONE ARE YOU?
(QUIZ LINK BELOW )
QUIZ LINK WHAT IS YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLE :
ENJOY YOUR SELF DISCOVERY JOURNEY
LOVE and RELATIONSHIP as far as i have read and observed other couples are two different things ,LOVE is glorified as Disney Romantic Fantasy with rose-colored glasses on,where story ends with Quote "Happily Ever After"
But in reality Its the RELATIONSHIP which is the ANCHOR, so its not just the LOVE we need but we also need the RELATIONSHIP,ever lasting relationship which involves effort.
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE + EVER LASTING COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP
which takes effort as both partners are Two Different World,raised by Two different families,different hobbies,different friends,different goals and LIFE VISION ...list goes on but with similar energy ( spiritually)because we attract person with similar energy as of ours ...we do not get What we want,we get What we ARE ...
If we vibe at High Positive energy , we can attract Positive High vibe Partner...
Its not about HOW Beautiful Our Wedding day will be but its HOW Beautiful Our Life would be after the wedding day ...realistic goals... understanding each other with clear communication,respect,unconditional acceptance, appreciation, vulnerability,mature disagreement, mature annoyance and not being too idealistic.
NO ONE IS PERFECT ,we can never call ourselves PERFECT as we always need to change and improve ...we can only get BETTER not PERFECT ...
When ever your relationship with your partner or loved one goes on TOSS...
NEVER EVER GO FOR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE FROM YOUR FAMILY,FRIENDS OR RELATIVES...YOU WILL GET SUBJECTIVE BIASED ADVICE and you need OBJECTIVE POINT OF VIEW to find FULFILING HAPPY SOLUTION.
SO WHAT CAN I DO ?
Being realistic ,listing down your RELATIONSHIP VISION and sharing the same with your partner and asking for partners RELATIONSHIP VISION list
Example of vision :
HER LIST -
We fix each other's faults
We cherish each other.
We make each other happy .
We share our financial details with each other clearly
We respect each other etc...
HIS LIST :
We look out for each other's best interest.
We have lots of Fun Together.
We support each other careers.
We respect each other and our families.
We are proactive in self improvement holistically (health,realtionships,finance,spirituality,community..)etc...
Now see what are common points and what are clashing points between both of you ...
for better understanding
you can have Premarital Counseling or meet relationship Psychologist,Life Coaches... to clearly know where both of you stand in this relationship.
A good counselor will always ask many many questions from you to help you reach a solution
HAPPINESS IS HIGHLY IN DEMAND AND ITS TOTALLY FREEEEEEEE......
SEEK MAGIC EVERYDAY
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