Self-realization is different from Self-actualization .....
Whenever our Life goes off track, we tend to knowingly or unknowingly ESCAPE our emotions...
HOW?
Deeply immersed in work,over eating,heavy alcohol consumption, excess partying, social media over consumption n many others...
All above are temporary fixes
Permanent fix is SELF ACCEPTANCE + SELF LOVE + SELF AWARENESS + SELF REALIZATION....
Here , we will understand neurotic needs ,an essential part of Self -Realization
Let's talk about neurotic issues , these are the patterns developed in us throughout our life,which can simply be defined as our NOW Perception of Life.
Neurotic Needs: Here, we will refer to three main needs ...
When in worst situation ,individual can choose being either of below mentioned three person or may be mix of two or three...as a coping mechanism
1) Need Towards People : People pleaser ...
In childhood/teenage/adulthood were abused,compared...they have strong need for external affection and approval.
(Self talk) I always say YES to others because i can not hurt them and feel guilty .....or if i will say NO,I MAY LOOSE THEM
Need for External validation ,they are sensitive to rejection and criticism and they are often abused or exploited.( mainly stuck in victim mindset WHY ME ?)
2) Need Against People : Need for POWER ,Few TOP Management Professionals ...
Seek Power ,they Compete- Fight - Defeat - Win ( Hardwired by default now)
They have eye for perfection...
In childhood/teenage/adulthood were abused, or situation/ life events related to helplessness, sabotage freedom, controlled independence, financial issues, feeling of unworthiness...
Strong Need for Self Control and Independence
Strong Need to Prove to themselves and others
Highly guard themselves and emotions,have high invisible walls around them for protection(no deep emotions talks)
Find it difficult to Trust others
Fear of Being Hurt by others
They Distinct themselves from others ( leading the organization )
They are normal human beings who have all emotions and mostly are afraid to open up because they fear rejection and questions
They love to be admired externally - External validation - Awards,Rewards, Social media presence with lots of likes n loves etc
( DOPAMINE BOOST 😃 - brain chemical which is released on achievement n related emotions )...
3) Need to move away from people :
Isolating from society or being distant from few people,it can have both positive and negative outcomes
SELF DISCOVERY : ( my personal stages )
a) SELF AWARENESS and SELF ACCEPTANCE :
Self awareness is powerful ,where you are in a mode to understand - Yourself ,your patterns,your behaviour,your beliefs...its like with time and involvement of your mentor/coach your life layers are peeling e.g.onion layers...what lies beneath this layer of Me...
And not judging yourself for your flaws ,rather accepting and releasing it ...
Law of Polarity says we live in polar world ,southpole - northpole,man- female,happy -sad ......so
All emotions negative and positive are part of me , the more we resist pain the more it will persist...accepting and resolving it
b) SELF LOVE : now going deep and loving myself to the core , forgiving myself ,praising myself ,being honest to myself ,accepting myself not judging myself and finally loving myself ....
c) SELF REALIZATION: An ongoing journey, Self-Realization occurs when we stop identifying with the limited ego and attaching to the soul, and instead recognize ourselves as one and the same as the Divine...
ENJOY YOUR SELF DISCOVERY JOURNEY....
Sources:
Einzelgänger
lonerwolf-self-realization
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