GRIEF is universal.
DEATH of a loved one, LOSS of a JOB, END of a RELATIONSHIP, or any other change that alters your life ...
You may cry, become angry, withdraw, feel empty. None of these things are unusual or wrong.
IT IS TOTALLY OKAY TO "NOT BE OKAY "...SOMETIMES
IF WE DO NOT EXPERIENCE OUR EMOTIONS FULLY OR WE TRY TO CONTROL THEM, THEY WILL SOON SHOW UP ...SO LEARN TO TRANSMUTE THEM NOT CONTROL THEM.
Everyone grieves differently, but there are some commonalities in the stages and the order
of feelings experienced during grief.
My story = Denial to Depression to Anger to SELF AWARENESS to FORGIVENESS and finally to peaceful ACCEPTANCE ...more self-discovery, learning, changing......
Please HELP your LOVED ones HEAL Faster , understand them ...be kind and identify which stage they are in.
Some people are Emotional(most decisions driven by emotions),some are Analytical ( most decisions driven by Material world and ME factor )
BE A BEAUTIFUL BLEND OF BOTH = WISE PERSON
Stage 1: Denial
Examples of the denial stage Breakup or divorce: “They’re just upset. This will be over tomorrow.” Job loss: “They were mistaken. They’ll call tomorrow to say they need me.” Death of a loved one: “She’s not gone. She’ll come around the corner any second.” Terminal illness diagnosis: “This isn’t happening to me. The results are wrong.”
Stage 2: Anger
Anger is hiding many of the emotions and pain that you carry. This anger may be redirected at other people, such as the person who died, your ex, or your old boss. You may even aim your anger at inanimate objects.
Examples of the anger stage Breakup or divorce: “I hate him! He’ll regret leaving me!” Job loss: “They’re terrible bosses. I hope they fail.” Death of a loved one: “If she cared for herself more, this wouldn’t have happened.” Terminal illness diagnosis: “Where is God in this? How dare God let this happen!”
Stage 3 or 4: Bargaining
During grief, person feels vulnerable and helpless. In those moments of intense emotions, it’s not uncommon to look for ways to regain control or to want to feel like you can affect the outcome of an event. In the bargaining stage of grief, you may find yourself creating a lot of “what if” and “if only” statements.
Examples of the bargaining stage Breakup or divorce: “If only I had spent more time with her, she would have stayed.” Job loss: “If only I worked more smartly, they would have seen how valuable I am.” Death of a loved one: “If only I had been more active and realistic, she wouldn’t be gone.” Terminal illness diagnosis: “If only we had gone to the doctor sooner, we could have stopped this.”
Stage 3 or 4: Depression
Whereas anger and bargaining can feel very “active,” depression may feel like a “quiet” stage of grief.
In the early stages of loss, you may be running from the emotions, trying to stay a step ahead of them. By this point, however, you may be able to embrace and work through them in a more healthful manner. You may also choose to isolate yourself from others in order to fully cope with the loss.
That doesn’t mean, however, that depression is easy or well defined. Like the other stages of grief, depression can be difficult and messy. It can feel overwhelming. You may feel foggy, heavy, and confused.
Depression may feel like the inevitable landing point of any loss. However, if you feel stuck here or can’t seem to move past this stage of grief, talk with a mental health expert,a therapist or may be YOU can take the lead to Help.
Examples of the depression stage Breakup or divorce: “Why go on at all?” Job loss: “I don’t know how to go forward from here.” Death of a loved one: “What am I without her?” Terminal illness diagnosis: “My whole life comes to this terrible end.”
Stage 5: Acceptance
Acceptance is not necessarily a happy or uplifting stage of grief. It doesn’t mean you’ve moved past the grief or loss. It does, however, mean that you’ve accepted it and have come to understand what it means in your life now.
You may feel very different in this stage. That’s entirely expected. You’ve had a major change in your life, and that upends the way you feel about many things. Look to acceptance as a way to see that there may be more good days than bad, but there may still be bad — and that’s OK.
Examples of the acceptance stage Breakup or divorce: “Ultimately, this was a healthy choice for me and other person” Job loss: “I’ll be able to find a way forward from here and can start a new path.” Death of a loved one: “I am so fortunate to have had so many wonderful years with him, and he will always be in my memories.”
Terminal illness diagnosis: “I have the opportunity to tie things up and make sure I get to do what I want in these final weeks and months.”
The key to understanding grief is realizing that no one experiences the same thing.
Grief experienced by me is different of what has been experienced by you or your loved ones but these action steps will help in fast healing and reconstructing life of your loved ones.
GOD BLESS
Source:Healthline and Sue Atkins
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